When she first cheated on her now ex-husband, she says it was about the sex, but it also showed her how awful her home life and marriage were.“You have no idea what’s going on behind closed doors in another marriage,” she says.“Nobody else knew what my marriage was like when I cheated.”But no matter how many more people are doing it or how easy it is to find single (and married) people to cheat with, O’Reilly says it’s still not socially acceptable to cheat — and never will be.“I do think its acceptance is still gendered with women being judged more harshly,” she says, adding the younger generation, however, is a lot more open to a broader range of relationships.“They seem to understand that monogamy is a choice and that they can custom-design their relationships according to their needs,” she says.
While her affair has recently dissolved, she went back on the dating site three months ago.
So far, she hasn’t met anyone like him.“I think I am looking to replace what I had.”Nobody knows Violet’s secret and she doesn’t ever plan on telling her husband.“There’s a stigma attached to cheating,” she says.
“At the end, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with [cheating] if we’re looking for fulfillment. it’s this bubble and nothing from the outside can affect us.
It doesn’t make us bad people.”The fine line between being a “good” and “bad” person is always on Violet’s mind, and although she says she would feel betrayed if her husband had cheated on her (she also agrees it is hypocritical), she doesn’t necessarily think she’s a bad person.“I don’t feel like either of the men I was involved with were bad people either,” she says. It’s just you and that person.”[email protected] @Arti Patel A briefing note to Gen.
“I would hate for my children to know their mother did this.
I can say my husband is a very good man, but everyone’s story is individual.“Once you choose to step outside of your marriage, it’s very hard not to go back.
The relationship lasted on-and-off for seven years and Violet’s current husband still has no idea.“It was intense … “We were seeing each other multiple times a week, talking on the phone, emailing, sending texts …
he was my primary go-to, he was more my husband than my husband was.”After the three years, he ended up leaving his own wife, but Violet chose to stay with her husband and kids.
The two are now both divorced, live together and have been in an open relationship for the last three years. we missed out on a lot when we were married.”READ MORE: Women are more likely to lose interest in sex after a year — here’s why Her partner is currently on the site, while she sees another man on her own time.