Months after their first date, the couple discovered they had been classmates in preschool, and one year into their relationship Justin arranged to have the young students from their former school hold up signs that asked, "Will you marry me? How to boost the odds with a better profile: Use recent pictures (taken within the past year) and at least one good close-up headshot.Show that you're humble through a joke, a self-effacing story or a humorous anecdote. To make a strong first impression, use anecdotes instead of a string of adjectives describing yourself.“And do not lie about the fact you are going on different dates.
“I advise men to pay on a first date,” says ‘flirt coach’ Thomas Peter, who runs how-to courses in flirting in Zurich or by telephone or email.
“Later on couples usually want to split the costs – especially older couples," he says, adding that surprisingly "Among young people there is still a tendency for girls to expect their date to pay.” Blending commitment and independence is expected…
“I had to offer full commitment, but be prepared to have and offer a lot of independence too.” …so be clear when dating several people simultaneously While dating a few people at the same time is common in some countries, particularly America, it is not customary in Switzerland.
But you usually need to date around to find the right match. Tijmens advises keeping each date to lunch or dinner – “absolutely no intimacy while you are dating several people,” she warns.
*names have been changed A version of this article was published in 2016.
Amy Giberson, now 34, was reluctant to try internet dating again but she decided to give it one more shot in 2014. There are a slew of sites and apps to help singles find love and, for the most part, they work, according to Consumer Reports.
But as Swiss Marc* reveals, “we behave the way we do because of the numerous rejections we have received from Swiss women.” Tijmens’ top tip?
Women should make themselves more approachable by, for example, smiling and saying ‘hello’. It doesn’t pay off to label yourself an ‘expat’ Think being an expat will make you sound exotic? There are around two million expats in Switzerland from all over the world, but the Swiss are on their home turf: they have friendships they established as children, making it hard for foreigners to build relationships with them.
Take German expat Lena*, a leggy blonde: she noticed that since moving to Zurich, she has not been hit on much in bars.
“I mainly get approached by Spanish guys,” she admits, adding that she thinks Swiss men must be too arrogant or too scared to speak to women.
She says: “Labelling yourself as an expat when you want to date locals is not always helpful.